The Mom 'This Or That' That Turned Into Therapy

Some episodes are therapy. Some are a deep breath. This one is a deep breath with opinions, confessions, and the kind of laughter that only makes sense if you’ve ever felt like an anxious, overstimulated mom trying to survive a normal Tuesday.

We play a Mom This Or That game, but it quickly turns into the real stuff behind our preferences: why energy drinks can be a disaster for anxiety, why sleep feels like a negotiated settlement, and why grocery pickup can be the only thing standing between a plan and a cart full of “how did this happen.” We also get into the endless battle of dishes versus laundry, the magic and chaos of “closing the kitchen,” and how routines and boundaries can lower the mental load without turning you into a rigid robot.

Then we pivot into parenting reality, from baby and toddler sweetness to teen attitude that can make even the calmest mom feel unhinged. We talk friendships and communication, the texting versus phone call divide, and what connection looks like when you’re tired and touched out. And because we can’t help ourselves, we end with would-you-rather questions and a rapid-fire lightning round that reveals way too much about how we live.

If you need something relatable, funny, and grounding, hit play. Subscribe so you don’t miss what’s next, share this with a mom friend who gets it, and leave a review with your biggest “this or that” pick: grocery pickup or shopping in store?

Transcript

Welcome Back And Why This Matters

SPEAKER_02 0:01

You're listening to the Anxiety Ridden Moms Club, the podcast for moms who love their kids deeply and still feel anxious, exhausted, and overstimulated.

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Here, we talk about the messy stuff, the thoughts we don't say out loud, the pressure to do it all, and the journey back to ourselves.

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Progress over perfection always. Let's go.

SPEAKER_01 0:29

Welcome back to the Anxiety Ridden Moms Club. How are you?

SPEAKER_00 0:33

Good. How are you? Pretty good. Pretty good.

SPEAKER_01 0:37

That's good. Good. Yes. I have to tell you, I um listened to last week's episode this morning just to see if we and yes, if you are watching us on video, I have a cat that is very intrigued with what's happening. And she's hanging out on oh now she's stuck on my back. Oh, nice. Um, I listened to last week's episode, and I hope that people laughed as much as I did when I was listening back because it did. It made me laugh.

SPEAKER_06 1:09

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 1:10

And so we talked about um Gina rapid firing some questions at me this week. Um, but that'll be coming soon. Instead, this week we're gonna have a this or that episode mom edition. So we've had a couple people reach out um just wanting to get to know us more, better, what we like, what we don't like, um, and just want to come hang out with us. So we thought we would do a couple of these getting to know you episodes.

SPEAKER_03 1:41

I think it's kind of fun, different, and at least you get to get a better idea of who we are. And that we're really actually a lot of fun.

SPEAKER_01 1:49

We are so much fun. I know it doesn't seem like it because we talk about or I talk about not having any friends and never leaving my house. Whatever. Whatever, whatever. So let's jump

Mom This Or That Starts

SPEAKER_01 2:02

right in. Let's go with some mom, this or that. Okay. Coffee or energy drink?

SPEAKER_03 2:08

Oh, coffee all day long. Energy drinks are horrible, and I am a big person who lectures everybody on do not drink them. They're horrible. They're so bad for you.

SPEAKER_01 2:19

I am also coffee, as we learned last week, when I had to take a bathroom break mid-podcast on do chew coffee. So I won't make that mistake again. Um, but I'm I'm also coffee. I will say I am also on the energy drinks are bad for you campaign. Um, my daughter is obsessed with Alani and once an Alani wall. And um, when she goes to her dad, she'll come home with an Alani can. How excited she is, and it just Yeah, it's so bad.

SPEAKER_03 2:51

And that stuff actually does taste good. I've tasted it, or you know, sometimes you taste one before. They're good, but some of them can be good, but they are so full of so much horrible stuff. And people with anxiety, especially, should not drink them. You should not drink them. So bad.

SPEAKER_01 3:09

Yeah. I don't feel like coffee, even at this point, messes with my anxiety so much. Like I just that's what it is. I drink caffeine, but an energy drink, I definitely will have heart palpitations for sure.

SPEAKER_03 3:23

Yes, it is not good if you have anxiety. It's for sure. Put it down and get to a cup of coffee.

SPEAKER_01 3:29

Yes. Early bird or night owl?

SPEAKER_00 3:35

Neither.

SPEAKER_01 3:37

I was gonna say the same.

SPEAKER_03 3:39

Neither.

SPEAKER_01 3:40

I'd like to like a solid 10 hours. Yeah, solid 10 hours of sleep.

SPEAKER_03 3:46

Yes, I don't know. Um don't want to get up early, and I don't really want to stay up late. Unless there's something really fun and entertaining once in a while, it's fine, but not typically, no. I like just the middle of the day. It's a great time in the middle of the day.

SPEAKER_00 4:01

We are so lame.

SPEAKER_01 4:04

So lame. But yeah, I yeah, I used to be a party animal, not so much anymore. Now I'll calculate, like, even if I'm out, I'm like, oh God, I gotta get to bed. I only have this will only give me seven hours, and that's not enough. Totally count down how many hours I have left to sleep. Or then I'll calculate. Okay, I have to get up at six, so I have to go to bed at whatever. But working from home has been freaking fabulous because I literally wake up at like 7:30, throw on some makeup, whatever. I told them today because they told me I have good Zoom shirts. And so I told them, I said, well, Nora had to do at school, Nora had to do a um police report, or all of them had to do a police report on their mom for Mother's Day. And mine said she always wears a really nice shirt and pajama pajama pants. They're like, Yeah, that's the work from home life. And um one of the guys was like, Yeah, you were set up on that one. Like that is a bad exercise. Like, there are no wrong, there are no right answers on that kind of quiz. I'm like, Yes, you're exactly right. You're exactly right. So that was funny. Okay, grocery pickup or shopping in store.

SPEAKER_00 5:23

Grocery pickup for me. And I'll tell you what.

SPEAKER_03 5:27

Okay, so this is where I either want it delivered to my house or I want to go in. If I'm going all the way there, I'm going in. I don't know. I like I know a lot of people like the whole like pick just pull up and pick it up. But like if I'm getting like Sam's where I'm gonna get bulkier stuff that's just a pain in the rear end, that's getting delivered to my home off of Instacart. But to go to the grocery store, I kind of like being in the grocery store and walking around. Sometimes you'll be like, oh, that looks good. I wouldn't have even known about it if I didn't walk around. And that's what I'm saying.

SPEAKER_01 5:59

Not that it's always a good thing. I was gonna say that's precisely why I do pickup because I get what I get and I'm not buying pajamas, I'm not buying a new shampoo. Yeah, literally, we w we went into Walmart. I don't even know what we needed to get. I don't know why I had to go in. But it was just it was just last week. I had to go in for something. And then oh, Nora wanted to make um cake pops.

SPEAKER_00 6:26

Uh uh.

SPEAKER_01 6:26

And so I was like, oh, we'll just run in and grab a couple of things. And then she was getting a new curly hair routine and I was shopping for pajamas, and yeah, then we just spend groceries are expensive. Yes.

SPEAKER_03 6:38

Yeah. Um but see, I'm also really I'm super weird about like my lunch deli meat. And that's another reason why I won't do that at like the regular grocery store because I want it like super thin, like see-through thin. Don't shave it. I want it to still be a whole piece, but I want it to be see through thin. And um Tom used to always think I was an idiot, and he thought it didn't matter, and I said, totally matters, it tastes totally different. And so the people at the grocery store know me. Sure, they're not all, they're old at the same time, but they always tell me you should order how you want it, and they're always we talk and chat, so it's fine. They don't hate me. But um, he now started actually ordering it for himself because he's been getting different stuff, and he'll be like, I need to see through this. And I'm like, I thought you shouldn't do it, you weren't ever gonna do that. And he goes, It does totally taste different though, and I I want it that way, it's just not the same. So that's why I can't order it because I feel like I can't say you need to present, you need to ask for my deli meat to be sliced exactly like this. Don't take the stuff they have already sliced and put our no, you need to get the big hunk of meat and go get it on the slicer and do it right.

SPEAKER_01 7:43

There you go. Yeah, you can't just be too fucking picky. I'm really picky. No, I will say I've gotten some questionable fruit at times. Yes. Um, I've had Christmas. I was so depressed at Christmas because I ordered um Christmas tree cakes and it was a big Christmas tree cakes, and I thought it was just like a big box, like double the size. You know, they're big Christmas trees. No, they were ginormous Christmas trees and they didn't even taste right.

SPEAKER_05 8:11

Yes.

SPEAKER_01 8:11

And then, yeah, I'm not good at sizes. I'll think I'm getting one size when I get something super small. Yes. Yeah. I mean, I've I've definitely had some mistakes. Or this last time I ordered a watermelon and they said they were out. I'm like, what? I was just there and you had like 38, so I had to go in anyway, and just different things like that. But generally speaking, on a week-to-week basis, we do grocery pickup because I will schedule it when Brad gets off work and he'll just go.

SPEAKER_03 8:40

Yeah, see, I'm I'm gonna say I always schedule my Sam's and then on the weekend I go to get my groceries at the grocery store. And I do it, and I kind of enjoy wandering around. But I am picky, so like I shouldn't put my pickiness on somebody else's shoulders to have to deal with.

SPEAKER_01 8:58

Yeah, I mean, I would love to have the shit delivered, but I don't want to tip. I'm tight too, so yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

Chores, Dishes, And Kitchen Rules

SPEAKER_01 9:04

So pick up it is laundry or dishes. And I think if anybody's listened for any period of time, they will know that I am 1,000% dishes. I fucking hate laundry. God bless, I hate them both. I hate them.

SPEAKER_03 9:23

I do have a dishwasher and I don't do dishes either, but if I had to do one, if I had to have just one that I did all the time and I could ditch the other one, I would probably actually pick laundry.

SPEAKER_00 9:38

Because dishes are all the time.

SPEAKER_03 9:40

You can never stop having dishes. It is every day all the time. It's just like never ending. It's as soon as I put it on the dishwasher, somebody puts a freaking dish in the sink. As soon as I empty it, it starts already being half loaded. Like it never ends. Laundry, I do it on a Sunday, it's completely done. I don't touch it again till next Sunday. So I would say laundry for sure laundry, because I can do one day a week and be done, not care at all the rest.

SPEAKER_01 10:09

We're gonna actually put a sign up in our window, which is right behind the kitchen sink, which is right next to the dishwasher that says sink closed, use dishwasher, because my people they struggle with just putting it in the dishwasher. So now she's home for summer, and I've explained like your brother's working, the boys are out working, like we gotta get our shit together and see that's why she helps.

SPEAKER_03 10:36

See, that's why I always had when the kids were young that the kitchen closed at eight. I cleaned up everything from our dinner, I cleaned, washed all, put all the dishes away, and I would say, Do you need anything else? You have 15 minutes or 30 minutes, whenever I'd tell them. And then you're not out in my kitchen. You cannot set a toe in there. You can die of thirst at that point. I don't care. So, like if you want something, go get it now. Because I swear to God, if I wake up and there's like a glass in my sink, could have done that. Put it in the dishwasher, you know they're not going to. So I would just close my kitchen. And I'm not I was stupid about that too, but I was like, it was one, it it just kind of like set our routine. You know what I mean? Like we'd have dinner, we'd do whatever, and then I'd probably like about 7.45, I'd be like, Does anybody else need anything? Because I'm cleaning this up and I don't want anything else. Nobody needs to come in here. And then I like that they'd go get another drink if they wanted, if they were thirsty, and then they would end up usually anyways. By 8 30, they were going to bed. It's not like you need to be up. You know what I mean? So if you need a drink, by eight, it's reasonable. By 8 30, they were typically that time going to bed. So it was only like a 30 minutes for bed that you can't drink anything. So if you did if but you knew the rules, so you just it wasn't an issue. And I I mean, he thought I was insane, but then he after a while realized the kitchen was nice and clean and he understood why it would irritate me if I had to like why am I doing dishes? It's like otherwise, like I said, that's why I hate dishes, they're never ending, never ending.

SPEAKER_01 12:04

That would work for me during the school year, but yeah, during the summer, it's a little harder. It would be a good idea to stay up till 6 a.m. this morning.

SPEAKER_03 12:12

So yeah, summer is a little bit hard, especially age-wise, like especially as the kids would get a little bit older. I feel like it it adjusted some. So when they were younger, it was way easier to do that. But then when they got older, I would just simply tell them, okay, I'm cleaning the kitchen. So if you come in here and you get anything, you better put it in the dishwasher. Like, I don't want to come out here to find that you just decided at 10 p.m. to destroy my kitchen. You know what I mean? Like, at least be polite enough to me to realize I just did all that work. You don't need to completely screw it up. For sure.

SPEAKER_00 12:41

For sure. So by high school is the fine.

SPEAKER_03 12:44

Huh?

SPEAKER_00 12:45

Meal plan or wing it?

SPEAKER_03 12:47

Meal plan all the way.

SPEAKER_01 12:51

I go back and forth. I gotta get better. I gotta get better. Summertime, it's looking like a wing it.

SPEAKER_03 13:00

No, I'm better Monday through Friday, no matter what. I'm meal plan. Saturday's and Sunday, especially during the summer, it's harder to totally plan it, but Monday through Friday, I'm planned for sure.

SPEAKER_01 13:11

I will tell you that um Nora was getting ready to go to her dad's and uh she's like, and we gotta go to the grocery store. She's like, you know how you'll ask me and why on the weekends, like, hey, I'm ordering groceries, like, what do you want this week? She's like, not my dad. He says, What do you want for dinner tonight? Oh, we gotta go to the grocery store and pick it up. He has absolutely it made me laugh because for the 12 years we were married, yeah, absolutely. Like, if he needed it from the grocery store, he would go that night and get it from the grocery store.

SPEAKER_04 13:42

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 13:43

Freaking ridiculous.

SPEAKER_00 13:44

It can't. It can't.

SPEAKER_03 13:50

Why isn't your cat just join us on the on the sh on the show? That would be great. She could. I don't know if you hear a few meows.

SPEAKER_01 14:00

She doesn't like to on camera. Scared of it. Are you scared? She'll just come and lay down. I don't care what they do as long as their assholes aren't in my face. And they like they like that. Um pajamas all day or real clothes? I'm a real clothes on top, pajama pop pants on bottom. We already established that.

SPEAKER_03 14:25

Well, I mean, when you gotta go to work and you actually have to go to work, I mean you actually have to put on real clothes. Otherwise, if it was This is hard. That's a hard one because I can't say I'm really like an all-the-time pajama person or all the time. I I don't know, it depends. I'm a definitely like, if it was up to me, just can we just bum around? Sweatpants, comfy stuff. That would be my ideal. If I could do it every single day just to be comfy. Sometimes maybe my comfy can be a little bit cute, and other times maybe not so much.

SPEAKER_01 14:57

There you go. Stay home or go out. I feel like we've also already established this one for myself as well. That's stay home. Yeah, I think I would I'd pick stay home more often too. Way more often.

SPEAKER_00 15:12

Solo target trip or girls' night. Solo. I don't like shopping alone.

SPEAKER_01 15:23

I like to have somebody with me. And I can use a girl's night every now and then. Not a lot, but every once in a while.

SPEAKER_03 15:31

Every once in a while it's nice. I would I would say I agree. Every once in a while too. But Target is just like a see for me, I love they just get what I want to look at and take my time and go through the store. And you know, all these questions that when you're asking me, I'm like, sound horrible. You sound like zero fine. I sound like so rigid and like like I'm like being by myself.

SPEAKER_01 16:00

I never want to leave my house and I want to be awake from 8 a.m. to 8 p.m. and that is about it. What's wrong with that life?

SPEAKER_03 16:10

And I don't want anybody to bother me. And I want everybody to follow my rules.

SPEAKER_01 16:15

It is really not true. I mean, it is and it isn't, you know what I mean? Like it's not true. This is our preferred method. This isn't our lives. This is not our lives.

SPEAKER_03 16:24

This is not how our life is, yeah. That's because I was gonna say it's just not, it's not really true. It's just what I would prefer. I still like to have fun and joke around and have a good time. After we're going through that, I'm thinking it's just I sound like a horrible person who wouldn't even want to be around me.

SPEAKER_01 16:42

I'm not saying that one out loud because people will be like, yeah, I'm kidding.

SPEAKER_03 16:48

I don't care. You don't want to be around me, don't be

Baby, Toddler, Teen And Survival

SPEAKER_03 16:51

around me.

SPEAKER_01 16:51

Now we've got some parenting questions. Baby stage or toddler stage?

SPEAKER_03 16:56

No toddler all day long. We love them. I love a squishy baby. Babies are cute and whatever. They're a lot of work and they're not, I mean, they're just gonna they're boring. I'd rather they were like sassy and attitude and I don't know, all the fun stuff that comes, the stupid, crazy stuff that comes out their mouth that you just have to laugh. And like I just love toddlers. Love them.

SPEAKER_01 17:21

I love both. I really do love both. It's this teenager shit that I am not a fan of. I am not a fan of.

SPEAKER_03 17:29

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 17:30

Mouthy. Yeah. We had a um, we had a um, oh my god, what do you got? Like a just a bunch of pictures, like a slideshow.

SPEAKER_06 17:40

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 17:40

And every single one of them is Nora as a baby, as a toddler, at always screaming at her brother. Like there's one where she's like a month old and he's got her in his hands and she's just screaming in her head off. I'm like, bitch birthday since day one. Like, what can I say?

SPEAKER_03 17:57

See, I love the high school years, though. Those are probably really some of my favorites.

SPEAKER_01 18:03

Well, goes into the next question toddler tantrums or teen at teen attitude. I mean, neither are great. Neither are great. I also remember shopping trips where Nora made us all want to jump out of the fucking car because we would be going like coming home from like Fairview Heights, which is an hour to Jerseyville, and she would just scream. Just scream.

SPEAKER_03 18:26

See, I think I was always pretty lucky. I never really had a lot of toddler issues. I really didn't. I don't know. You know, I'm very regimented, so my kids had regular naps and regular stuff. So they were always when they were awake, they were like, whoo, well rested. I feel great. So they were always in a pretty good mood. Um so I mean, teenagers when they get I don't know, I didn't have a lot of I don't I don't know. I actually sometimes I was pretty lucky with the kids because they were never I mean we've always talked about Casey and how Casey could drive me up a wall. I mean it was never my never like a fan of all of that. I could have done without some of that for sure. But um I don't know. I don't know what I would take though. I don't like either one of them. If you're gonna throw a temper tantrum one way or the other, it all sucks. It's part of parenting that sucks.

SPEAKER_01 19:23

I was much more laid back with my kids then. Like work got all of my attention so with my kids. I was like, whatever, scream your head off. And now I'm like, oh my god, the noise. I can't have noise.

unknown 19:36

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 19:37

I think it was just like a couple days ago that Nora was throwing a fit about her brother, something her brother did, and I just started like mimicking her very loud. I was like, oh my god, why won't you leave me alone? And she just looked at me and I was like, Yeah, girl, yeah. That's what you sound like. So what you sound like, exactly.

SPEAKER_03 19:57

Because we're the same thing. I think that's the thing is whenever there's like temper tantrums of any age, to me, I think I'm so busy kind of doing some of that, making fun of it. I think that's why I'm just like, I mean, nobody really likes it, but I always just kind of would break it with some humor.

SPEAKER_01 20:12

You know, one kid sleepover or driving a carload of kids somewhere. One kid sleepover, one kid sleepover. Yeah. Yeah. Field trip volunteer or PTO meeting. Neither. Neither.

SPEAKER_03 20:29

Neither. I am not a PTO mom. No.

SPEAKER_01 20:34

Nora also called me on on that. She's like, I get it when you worked all the time. You know, but could you join me on a field trip now? I'm like, no.

unknown 20:43

Nope.

SPEAKER_01 20:44

Nope. Goodness.

SPEAKER_03 20:46

I think I went on I think I went on like maybe two field trips ever. And I really honestly did not enjoy them. Did not enjoy them. And I would never and I've there there I've had people talk about PTO. I I am the I'm not your girl for that, no.

SPEAKER_01 21:04

Never me neither. Um skipping the next one. It's indoor playplace or playground. That one's a given. Yeah. Um birthday party at home or birthday party somewhere else.

SPEAKER_03 21:18

We did a lot of birthday parties at home, and I think I had fun doing them that way. Because we would have like all the um even Kylie had like a painting party, you know, like how you can go to like the painting places and whatever. And we did it at the house. So a girl came in and the house was all the girls were all over every table counter, everything having their own light spot to do their painting, and and then I like the how they stay up all night and have so much fun. And I don't know. I like the home stuff.

SPEAKER_01 21:48

Fun. We always have home birthday parties, but then you have to clean and set up and cook the food and all that shit. So I just like to pay and have it somewhere else.

SPEAKER_03 21:58

I mean, we had some good ones. I went places too. They were fun. But I think I I personally I didn't like all the cleaning they had to do, but like I did personally enjoy the at-home ones a lot. They were fun.

SPEAKER_01 22:10

I like that.

Friends, Boundaries, And Date Nights

SPEAKER_01 22:12

Okay. On to the relationships and friendships.

SPEAKER_00 22:15

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 22:16

Category.

SPEAKER_00 22:17

Texting or phone calls. I don't know. I'm a texter. I'm texting.

SPEAKER_03 22:28

I love to talk. But you call me all the time. I love to talk. Like I would say that like I I love the ability to text because like if I'm watching a TV show halfway watching it, that I can sit and talk and and watch a show. So I mean that's what I like texting for. But I like I love to talk.

SPEAKER_04 22:47

Talk a lot.

SPEAKER_03 22:49

Whatever works.

SPEAKER_00 22:50

Yeah. One best friend or lots of friends. One best friend. Same. Date night out or date night in?

SPEAKER_03 23:03

Depends on what in is.

SPEAKER_01 23:05

She's a freak. She has a freak. So she's going in. I like a good mixture of both.

SPEAKER_03 23:11

I do too. We usually we have the date night. We usually go somewhere and we do something. So we usually go on. And then they come home and get freaky. Yes, I definitely make you lose some hours at home.

SPEAKER_01 23:22

There you go. Girls' trip or family vacation? Uh family vacation. Same. Know everyone's business or tell nobody yours. Oh, I'd like to know everybody's.

SPEAKER_03 23:36

I don't care what you can say. You can know whatever you want about me. I don't care.

SPEAKER_01 23:40

Same. Same. That was an easy round. That's super easy. Hire a cleaner or a personal chef? Cleaner. Thousand percent. Hire a cleaner. Oh, pizza or tacos? Tacos. Yeah, I would actually go with tacos too. I love tacos. I do love a good pizza. I do too, but I love tacos. But I love tacos. I agree. Oh, diet. Oh, wait. I thought it said Diet Coke or Doc Diet Pepsi. But it's actually Diet Coke or Dr.

SPEAKER_00 24:19

Pepper. Oh, and Dr. Pepper. Really?

SPEAKER_01 24:26

Diet Coke, hands down, 1000%. Not a question. Starbucks or Dunkin' Donuts. Oh, Starbucks. Starbies. Chips and queso? Or mozzarella strips?

SPEAKER_00 24:40

Chips and queso.

unknown 24:42

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 24:42

I'm good with just chips and salsa, too.

SPEAKER_01 24:44

Yeah, I am. Chip with anything. I love chips. All the chips. All right.

Would You Rather And Anxiety Takes

SPEAKER_01 24:54

Anxiety Ridden Mom's Club edition.

unknown 24:57

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 24:58

Know the future or change the past.

SPEAKER_03 25:02

Know the future.

unknown 25:04

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 25:04

I my mom just said today, if only we had a crystal ball. Mm-hmm. I'm like, damn, it would be really nice to have a crystal ball.

SPEAKER_03 25:12

I I learned too much from anything I did, I didn't I wish I didn't do or didn't have happened. You know what I mean? I learned so much from it, I would never change my past. Kind of made me who I am.

SPEAKER_01 25:24

So I'm all about divorce agreement. That's what we were talking about. I didn't see my career going the way that it went. And I would have made some different decisions if we only had a crystal ball.

SPEAKER_03 25:42

Yes.

SPEAKER_01 25:43

Yeah. Read minds or be invisible. Do you know if we could read minds, I would be, I'm 1,000% sure. I would be crying all the time.

SPEAKER_03 26:01

I'm way too sensitive with the soul. I think I'd be invisible. In fact, it just made me think of I can't even this. I'm this is gonna drive me crazy because I didn't know this question, so I didn't have this prepared. There was a show that was really good. And this girl well, okay, so this um, yeah, this girl would like leave her body and then like to go to other people and could get it like be a fly on your wall, literally. And then she'd come back to her own body. Oh yeah, I'd do that all day long. You'd never get me out of my bed if I just had to lay there and be like, oh, headed to her house tonight.

SPEAKER_01 26:42

Nothing good would come out of that. So it would be great. A boss one time when I got promoted to a manager, they were explaining this the phone system to me. And they're like, if you dial star, I don't know what it was, star seven six, and then an extension, you can listen into phone calls. And they said, But I'm warning you that with this power can come a lot of pain. I was like, What? Only do it if it's absolutely necessary. Like if you think somebody's doing something, you need to investigate something, or you overhear a call with a client or whatever the case may be. Like that makes sense. Be careful. And I never really did it. I think it was Star 989 or something. I never really did it. Um and then there was some drama and some different things, and I did it, and I dialed in and listened to somebody that I thought was like my right hand man, like I adored at work, not at work, whatever. And she was talking to another employee about how I was such a bitch. And it was so hard for me.

SPEAKER_04 27:52

Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_01 27:53

One, it hurt my feelings, but two, it was so hard for me to just act like nothing happened. Yeah, because she doesn't know that I heard that she was talking bad shit.

SPEAKER_04 28:02

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 28:03

Never did it again. Never ever did it again. You know what though?

SPEAKER_03 28:07

I think this, you know, the thing about it is though, sometimes it's kind of like um, I always think sometimes too, you could say something like that or whatever, and you're talking about like I don't know, but it doesn't mean like you don't. Women are kind of complex. Like you could sit around and say, My God, she's such a bitch, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And then you'd be like, I'm gonna go out with her tomorrow night. So you'll enjoy hanging out with the person.

SPEAKER_01 28:33

That's what was hard for me, though. Like, if it was someone that I didn't give a shit about.

SPEAKER_03 28:37

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 28:38

You know what I mean? Like, if it was just some yeah, random person doesn't matter. Telling me that I was that I heard calling me a bitch, I would be like, hmm, not wrong, and move on with my day. It hurt because I thought that she was the type of person that would come to me and be like, I think you're being a bitch. Because sometimes everybody needs to be told they're being a bitch or to back down. Whatever the situation was, it was not, I was not the problem. It was not me. In your mind. Period. Period.

SPEAKER_03 29:09

According to you.

SPEAKER_01 29:11

Not my problem.

SPEAKER_03 29:13

Uh limited. Something tells me maybe you were being a bitch, but anyways, I don't think so.

SPEAKER_01 29:19

It was just so complicated. She was talking to her cousin who also worked there. And so, like, I think I don't even think that it had to do with her. I think that it was something I was addressing with her cousin, and she was like trying to give her a pep talk. Like, I oh, don't worry about it. She's such a bitch. Little did they know that I was there too. I was the one who couldn't sleep. Fucking shit. Unlimited money or unlimited energy?

SPEAKER_03 29:46

Oh. Money. You can buy energy. If I had to pick, I'd pick money for sure. But I would love to have unlimited energy. I would love to have unlimited energy. How awesome that would be.

SPEAKER_01 29:59

Never do unlimited. Wait a minute. That would be awesome. But that will never happen. I'm severely unlimited money either. I think this podcast is going to be.

SPEAKER_03 30:18

If I had to truly pick, I'd pick unlimited money, but I really have to tell you, I would love to have unlimited energy. God bless the things I can do. Okay, go on.

unknown 30:25

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 30:27

Never do laundry again or never cook again.

unknown 30:31

Laundry dog.

SPEAKER_00 30:33

Laundry. Laundry.

SPEAKER_01 30:36

Lose your phone or lose your keys. Lose my keys. Okay. I don't go anywhere anywhere. Anyway. Whatever. Some of you might be in the key, whatever. I can sit and wait even. Oh, this is fun. Be stuck in Target or Sam's Club or Costco for 24 hours. Sam's and Costco are like the same. So Target or Sam's and Costco.

SPEAKER_00 31:03

Definitely Sam's and Costco. Without a shadow of a doubt.

SPEAKER_01 31:08

You can be on slides. You can try on. Try on clothes at Target too.

SPEAKER_03 31:16

But Target has toys and stuff you can play with and things too. I don't know. Target doesn't have a bakery, do they? No, they don't. I'd have to go with Sam's or Target. Sam's or Costco. It would be a little bit better to be there. You probably could eat your 24 hours up easier too.

SPEAKER_00 31:36

For sure. Lots of stuff. Yep. So many things to do. Yes.

SPEAKER_01 31:42

That'd be fun. Yeah. Always 15 minutes early or always 15 minutes late.

SPEAKER_03 31:50

I'm an early person, so it has to be early. Same. To me, if you're on time, you're late. Give up Amazon or TikTok. Oh. Amazon, I can't go without Amazon.

SPEAKER_00 32:05

No.

SPEAKER_03 32:05

You'd rather give up TikTok.

unknown 32:08

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 32:08

Give up Amazon or give up Tokyo. I want to give up TikTok because I want Amazon.

SPEAKER_01 32:14

I think I asked you this one last week. Have your search history read out loud or your text messages?

SPEAKER_03 32:20

Oh yeah, you've had that one. You could turn my Google search all day long. Don't get on my chat history though.

SPEAKER_01 32:28

I was gonna say. I probably read my text messages. There's nothing very scamy in there. Yeah. This is like the worst. Be trapped in a group text forever or have to answer every phone call.

SPEAKER_00 32:47

Hmm.

SPEAKER_03 32:49

Most group text messages get on my nerves, except for I do have one with my kids, and I don't, it does not get on my nerves. But the vast majority of them annoy me.

SPEAKER_01 32:58

I don't always with a bunch of coworkers, and I would literally live with my life with it muted because it's so annoying.

SPEAKER_00 33:06

Yes.

SPEAKER_01 33:09

But I don't want to answer every fucking phone call either. So I think I would be in a forever. But see, I like to talk. So I'd be like, hey, hello.

SPEAKER_03 33:18

It would get old. No. I'd love it. I'd love it. I'd hope there's a new person, crazy, normal, funny, whatever on the other end.

SPEAKER_01 33:28

Okay.

Lightning Round Favorites And Pet Peeves

SPEAKER_01 33:29

Rapid fire, lightning round. Are you ready?

SPEAKER_04 33:32

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 33:34

I'll read them, you answer, I'll answer.

SPEAKER_04 33:37

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 33:38

No explanation.

SPEAKER_04 33:40

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 33:41

Bras or no bras. Rapid fire.

SPEAKER_01 33:48

Insert 28 seconds. This is so much of a like depends on what you're doing. No, I'll say no bra. No bra. No bra. I hate bras. Heels or sneakers.

SPEAKER_00 33:58

Sneakers. Sneakers. Beach or mountains. Beach. Beach. Wolf. Wolf. Cat or dog. I can't. Dog. Dog. I'm not a cat person. Summer or fall. Fall. Reality TV or true crime? True crime. True crime. Book or podcast? Book. Podcast. Shower morning or night. Both. Shower morning and night.

SPEAKER_03 34:46

I forgot. Shower happened in the morning. But I'm both in both.

SPEAKER_01 34:50

You can't whatever. It's both. I can't have any one.

SPEAKER_00 34:53

Okay, fine. Ice cream or cookies. Cookies. Ice cream. Wine or a margarita. Strawberry margarita. Frozen.

SPEAKER_01 35:10

A frozen strawberry margarita with sugar instead of salt. Yes.

SPEAKER_00 35:14

Sign me up. Delicious. Sign me up. Window seat or aisle. Window. Window.

SPEAKER_01 35:28

I just read the word top and I was like, oh boy, top or bottom. No, it says top sheet or no top sheet. Top sheet. Duh. Who doesn't do a top sheet?

SPEAKER_03 35:39

Probably lots of people. They get hot. I don't know. I have to have it.

SPEAKER_01 35:43

You know, I know this is rapid fire, but I just saw.

SPEAKER_03 35:46

Right, you're not supposed to be talking and ad-libbing anything.

SPEAKER_01 35:49

All I'm going to say is that I just saw I could buy cooling sheets with my HSA. Sign me up. Oh, nice. I didn't even know. I can also buy an aura ring. Really? The problem I'm having is that I want the gold one, and the gold one specifically is $100 more.

unknown 36:05

What?

SPEAKER_01 36:06

I don't care what it is. If they want to give me one, I would love to have one. Oh God, this one's so annoying. Back into parking spaces or pull in.

SPEAKER_05 36:16

Back in.

SPEAKER_01 36:18

You would, because you're like a man. Men have to do it. I don't underfucking stand why men have to back into every parking spot that they've ever pulled into. And they're we'll be eight minutes late for church. And my mom will make a smart snarky comment like, did you know they started it? It starts at eight. Yes, mom. I know it starts at eight, but no, we gotta back it in. Why do we gotta back it in? At one point in time, you're gonna have to reverse. Whether that's when you go in, when you come out.

SPEAKER_03 36:48

I know, but it is nice to I like backing in. Not to say I do it all the time. Well, then I'll say by the grocery store, I don't do it because of that fact.

SPEAKER_01 36:59

Not if you're a man, you always fucking do it. Well, I'm not a man.

SPEAKER_00 37:05

Read receipts on or off. On. Why would you ever have a read receipt on? Why not?

SPEAKER_01 37:17

So people know you read it and ignored them? Yes. I did it because of my old job and I didn't want people to know that I was reading them. Secondly, I even learned how to turn it off on Facebook so people couldn't tell when you read their messages or not, because then you're like under a time frame to respond.

SPEAKER_03 37:34

And so you don't respond quite around. I respond right away. I don't understand that whole I don't feel like responding. It takes two seconds. But again, screaming line. Okay, wait, again, I like to talk. So if you text me, I'm gonna text you right back. Unless for some reason I literally, and this is a rare, but let's say I had to go do something outside and I actually did leave my phone in the house or something, and that is a very, very rare thing. No, my phone is on. I'm texting you back. Even if I just have to tell you that I, you know, doing something and give you a briefer answer, but text people back. No, you just said if you don't feel like it, you won't. You're the type of person, you're the type of person that probably is like eventually, you're probably the type of person, anyways, that like fibs as to like what you're doing. I was so busy. I left my phone over there. You're one of those. When really I just don't want to fucking talk on the phone. Right. That's you're one of those. I know you are.

unknown 38:33

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 38:34

I'm not rude like that. I'll pick up one and talk to you.

SPEAKER_01 38:38

That's probably why you have friends and I don't. Little things. The last one, which I think is strange. All right. Self-check, self-checkout or cashier. I actually like a cashier. 1,000% cashier, unless I there's something I need to steal.

unknown 38:58

Just kidding.

SPEAKER_01 38:59

No, they take stealing itself checkout very fucking seriously. And like, I'm an idiot, so sometimes I just miss things, and I don't want to go to jail because I forgot something, so I'll go to a cashier every time. Yes. If there's one available.

SPEAKER_03 39:15

I just like a cashier because I actually like to I like to talk to somebody. I like to talk to my I learned so many things about people and so many things I learned, even go through a checkout line. I love it. I love talking to people, random people I don't know. Love it.

SPEAKER_01 39:35

There you go. Do you have any other random facts to talk about? Anything else about yourself you want to share with the class?

SPEAKER_03 39:44

All that we've learned is that Gina's very rigid. She has a whole bunch of rules that you have to live by. She's kind of picky and a pain in the ass. You know, whatever.

SPEAKER_01 39:54

If you're into that, look her up.

SPEAKER_03 39:55

Which if you like it, here I am. Hey, would I like to laugh? Um, I love to talk.

SPEAKER_01 40:03

She's like working on her dating profile right now. I like long walks on the beach in the fall. I smell like fall.

SPEAKER_03 40:15

I use Chat GPT as my tour guide.

SPEAKER_05 40:18

Yes.

SPEAKER_03 40:19

Because he's at least, you know, just a cool guy to hang out and talks to me no matter what.

SPEAKER_01 40:27

He always responds on time and quickly. He's very prompt.

unknown 40:32

I know.

SPEAKER_01 40:33

He never says like you prefer this response or that response. And I'm like, well, I have to read both of them. So one, whatever.

SPEAKER_03 40:45

Uh

Final Laughs, Requests, And Where To Follow

SPEAKER_03 40:46

yeah. No, this is fun. Just kind of going through stuff and you know, hope that it's actually entertaining for everybody to just learn some different things about us as we um, I think I think we kind of needed a break to do a little bit of that. I kind of feel like. I think we have a lot of opinions and things that we've talked about and try to be, you know, helpful in different ways. But um I think it's important for everybody to know, you and me, who we are, what we're about.

SPEAKER_01 41:10

Love us or I did get feedback that we need to try root beer poppy because it tastes like actual root beer.

SPEAKER_03 41:19

Yes. I'm still can't tell you I'm uh I can't tell you that I'm gonna run to the store for it. But if it happens to be somewhere, I might just try it.

SPEAKER_01 41:31

You might just try it.

SPEAKER_03 41:32

Might just try it. There you go.

SPEAKER_01 41:34

All right.

SPEAKER_03 41:34

So anybody has any suggestions for any of us, let us know.

SPEAKER_01 41:38

Yes, yes. And please, please let us know if there's something specific you want to know about us or something specific you want us to talk about because we are open and looking for different topics.

SPEAKER_03 41:48

So yep, just have some fun and and talk about what we can. Help you out or make life more entertaining, whichever. Love it. All right, well, that's a wrap. Thank you. See ya.

SPEAKER_02 42:04

Thanks for spending time with us. Take what you need, leave what you don't, and be gentle with yourself. And if you want to stay connected, follow us on Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok at the ARMC. And remember, you're not broken, you're becoming. We'll see you next time.